Most guests behave beautifully without being told how. Still, body to body etiquette is worth spelling out, because the format is unusual. A standard massage keeps a therapist at arm's length; here the woman works with the full length of her body, skin on skin, for an hour or considerably longer. That closeness makes small things matter: a shower, a short fingernail, a clear word, cash counted before she arrives. None of it is complicated, and none of it is a test. It is simply what separates a pleasant session from an excellent one, and the women on our roster notice the difference every time. What follows collects their advice, gathered over many conversations in the booking thread and at the end of long evenings.
Why body to body etiquette matters more than usual
In a conventional massage, a guest's preparation barely affects the therapist. In a full-contact session it shapes her whole experience of the evening, and her experience in turn shapes yours. A woman who feels respected, comfortable and safe gives a more generous, more relaxed session than one who is managing an awkward situation. Good manners are therefore not a favour to her. They are an investment in your own hour. The principle behind every point in this guide is the same: treat her the way you would want to be treated by someone entering your private space, because in an outcall session, that is exactly what she is doing, and she is trusting you with her own comfort in return.
Hygiene: yours
This is the section guests most want to get right, and it is simple.
- Shower beforehand. A proper shower with soap, shortly before she arrives or while she sets the room. It is the single most appreciated courtesy on the list.
- Nails. Trim and file fingernails and toenails. Sharp edges are uncomfortable during close contact.
- Stubble and grooming. A fresh shave or a well-kept beard is ideal. Rough stubble can scratch during long passes; if you prefer not to shave, a softer beard is fine.
- Teeth and breath. Brush your teeth, particularly after garlic, coffee or cigarettes.
- Fragrance. Skip strong cologne and aftershave. Heavy scent clashes with warm oil and lingers on her linens for the next booking.
- Feet. If you have been walking the canals all day, give your feet an extra moment in the shower.
If you arrive straight from a flight or a workout and have not showered, simply say so when she arrives. She will happily wait while you do, and the time spent is part of the session rather than wasted.
Hygiene: hers
Guests sometimes wonder, politely, what standards the woman keeps. They are high, and they are the same for all fifteen.
- She arrives freshly showered, with clean hands and short, smooth nails.
- Her linens and towels are fresh for every booking and packed separately from used ones.
- Oils and gel are her own, sealed and stored properly, never taken from a previous guest's room.
- For nuru, a clean waterproof sheet is laid under her linens so nothing touches your bedding.
- For soapy, she brings a mild unscented soap and her own sponges or cloths.
- She washes her hands before starting and again when she finishes.
If you have an allergy or sensitive skin, mention it in the booking thread. A fragrance-free oil or a different soap is easy to arrange if she knows in advance.
Health and honesty
Please do not book if you are unwell. A cold, a stomach bug, a fever or an unexplained rash are all reasons to postpone, both for her sake and because a massage while ill is rarely enjoyable. Postponing costs nothing: payment only happens at the door, so a message before she sets off releases the booking without charge. The same applies to any skin condition or injury she ought to know about, such as recent surgery, a sprain or a sunburn. Tell her before the session begins, and she will adapt the pressure or avoid the area. Honesty here protects everyone, and the women of our roster would far rather rearrange an evening than discover a problem halfway through.
Alcohol and other substances
A drink with dinner is perfectly normal, and a glass of wine can help a nervous first-timer relax. Beyond that, restraint pays off. Heavy drinking dulls the sensations the session is built on, makes guests clumsy and forgetful, and can make the room feel unsafe for a woman arriving alone. She may decline to begin a session with a guest who is clearly intoxicated, and drugs of any kind have no place in a booking. If the evening has run later and livelier than planned, it is always better to message and move the appointment than to greet her unsteadily.
Consent, boundaries and the room
The most important piece of etiquette is also the simplest: the room belongs to both of you, and her choices count as much as yours. What a session includes is agreed in the booking thread before she travels, and inside the room that agreement is respected in both directions.
- Ask, never assume. If you want something adjusted, say so and let her answer. A polite question is always welcome.
- Accept a no gracefully. A declined request is not a negotiation opener, and pressing the point ends evenings early.
- Stop means stop. Either of you can pause or end the session at any time, for any reason.
- No photographs, no recordings. Phones stay face down. Her privacy is as important as yours.
- Age. Every guest must be twenty-one or older, and every woman on the roster is too.
Guests who follow these points rarely think about them twice, and they consistently receive the warmest sessions. Our page about the agency explains why we select women who expect, and give, this level of respect.
Conversation, questions and privacy
Talk as much or as little as feels natural. Some guests chat through the opening and fall silent once the long strokes begin; others say almost nothing between hello and goodbye. Both are fine, and she will read the room. A few conversational habits, though, make the evening easier for her.
- Keep personal questions light. Where she grew up, what she makes of Amsterdam, which neighbourhood pours the best coffee: all welcome. Her surname, her home address and her life outside the roster are not topics to press.
- Keep contact in the thread. Asking for a private number or her social media puts her in an awkward position, and rebooking her through us reaches her just as reliably.
- Compliment the work. Guests who say what they enjoyed, the pace, the warmth, one particular stretch of the session, give her something she can use.
- Leave the worries at the door. A few words about a hard week are human; an hour of venting turns her into a different kind of listener than the one you booked.
Money manners
Payment is brief and happens once, at the start, when she arrives. Have it ready before she knocks. If you are paying in cash, count it beforehand, in euros or any other major currency, and leave it somewhere visible or hand it over directly; a card or crypto payment works just as well. The rate is fixed, €180 per hour for one woman, so there is nothing to negotiate, and asking for a discount at the door is the quickest way to begin badly. Nothing beyond the agreed rate is expected afterwards. Payment in advance is never requested, so treat any message asking for a deposit as not coming from us. The frequently asked questions cover payment in more detail.
Timekeeping, changes and cancellations
The booking thread works best when both sides keep it accurate. Give the real hotel name or street address, and share the room number or apartment details when she messages that she is close. If you need to change the time, message as early as possible. If your plans collapse, a flight delayed, a dinner overrunning, cancel before she sets off; since nothing has been paid, nothing is owed, but a woman travelling across the city to an empty room loses an evening she could have spent elsewhere. Once she arrives, the booked time begins. Sessions finish at the agreed length, so if you would like longer, ask early in the evening, since an extension depends on her next booking. The booking page sets out the full process.
Preparing the space as a host
For a few minutes, your hotel room or apartment is her workplace. Treat it as you would a guest arriving at your home. Warm the room a couple of degrees above your usual setting, clear the bed and the floor around it, and put away valuables, documents and laptops. Soften the lighting. Make sure the shower works and has hot water, and put out a glass of water for each of you. Pets should be in another room, and anyone else staying with you should be out for the evening. If there is anything unusual about the building, a broken lift, a hidden entrance, a steep canal staircase, mention it in the thread so she arrives prepared.
Leaving well
When the session ends, let her pack at her own pace. Offer the shower first if she would like it, and give her a moment of privacy while she changes. A simple thank-you is the perfect close; there is no need for a long goodbye or a promise to rebook. If you enjoyed the evening, the thread is where feedback belongs, and a short note about what you liked helps us cast your next visit. If something was not right, tell us there too, calmly and specifically. We read every message, and honest feedback, positive or not, keeps the roster at its best. If this is your first booking, our guide to planning a first body to body session covers the practical steps that come before all of this.